Why do babies cry so much?

All babies cry. Crying increases at about two weeks and peaks at about two months. Crying is normal and it does not mean you are a bad parent. The amount of crying from normal, healthy babies fits into a pattern based on their age. Some babies might cry for almost six hours a day. The crying usually settles down by the fourth or fifth month of life. Even colic is thought to be just a variation of the normal pattern. Often a baby will cry no matter what you do. Sometimes, babies just can't stop crying and will cry for 30-40 minutes. This can be very hard for you. It can make healthy babies look like they have pain.

You can't spoil babies by picking them up when they cry. Babies who are regularly picked up and soothed during the first six months tend to cry less in the next six months.

There are lots of ways to soothe a baby. Make sure your baby is comfortable, not too hot or cold, and has a clean diaper. Snuggle your baby close to your chest. Carry your baby in a sling or baby carrier. Encourage your baby to suck and give a gentle back rub. Most babies like gentle motion so gently walk or rock your baby. Take your baby for a ride in a stroller or a car. Sound and music may soothe your baby. Humming or singing might help. The sound of a vacuum cleaner, clothes dryer or dishwasher sometimes helps calm babies. Make sure there is not too much noise.

Sometimes there are health reasons when babies cry. Even though most crying is normal, you know your baby best. If you are worried about how much your baby cries or you think your baby is sick, seek medical advice. Stay calm. Some babies will cry more often than others.

If you are getting frustrated, place your baby in a safe place, such as the crib, leave the room and shut the door. Take a short break to calm down before trying to comfort your baby again. Letting your baby cry for a few minutes will not harm the baby. It is more important to stay calm than to stop the crying.

Ask a friend or relative come over when the crying is too much and you need a break. Sometimes just talking to someone can help you with the frustration.

Never shake a baby. Frustration at not being able to comfort a crying infant is the most common reason for shaking a baby. Make sure that everyone who looks after your baby knows to never shake a baby. Knowing about why babies cry won't make your baby stop crying, but it can help you get through the first few months.

For more information about crying babies, contact Health Link Alberta where nurses are available 24-7 to provide health advice and information. Call toll-free 1-866-408-LINK (5465).